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Want to know one of my least favorite things about dating? The stall out. Because, on the one hand, things with the person you're dating seem great. You talk regularly, you see each other often, you have fun together, and yet the momentum in the relationship is That's what I call the stall out. And usually, it's a situation where, if you really take a closer look at your dynamic, you'll start noticing the telltale s your partner sees you as a fling all over the place.
Then suddenly, the reason your relationship seems to be going nowhere begins to make a lot more sense. While you can't force a relationship to evolve, you don't need to feel powerless in the situation, either.
Knowledge is power, because it puts you back in control of your destiny. Maybe what you learn isn't what you want to hear, but you get to decide how to proceed; whether to just relax and enjoy things while they last, or move on and seek out someone who is on the same as you. Either way, it becomes your choice. But the first step is to know what to look out for here.
Here's how someone who sees you as a fling will behave, according to experts. One of the clearest s that someone is serious about you is how enthusiastic they are to talk about their imagined future with you. So as Brittaney Young, a relationship expert and online life coach at Blush explains, if they aren't talking about the future with you, they aren't taking you seriously. Another clear indication of how invested they are in your relationship is how much they have tried to integrate you into their lives. As matchmaking and dating expert Stef Safran warns, "if there is always an excuse about meeting people in their life and it's just the two of you, [sic: while] that doesn't sound like they want you to get connected to the people they are.
Young agrees. So, Young says that if their answer to invitations for future events are along of the lines of, "we'll see," they may not be taking you very seriously. Listen, I get it, we all love the occasional Netflix and chill night. Ask yourself if you have a connection outside of the physical chemistry. If the answer is no, then there's a good chance that this is just a temporary fling. If you're still not sure how your partner feels about the relationship, the best way to find out is just to be direct and ask them.
If they are open and willing to talk about it, you're heading towards a better place. I don't have the time or energy to guess about anyone's interests or intentions. Recognizing that your partner may not be as invested in the relationship is just the first step.
Now it's time to reclaim some control and figure out what you want to do about that. You need to not assume that everyone you start dating will turn into a commitment or something long-term. Don't stop looking to meet people just because you met someone you like. Remember, if you don't have a plan for you, you'll wind up waiting around for someone else to fit you into theirs. So it's better you do some self discovery now which will later help you discern whether or not the person you're involved with fits into your plans.
Establishing the way you desire to be treated is a form of self-love. Finally and this part is really important , Young says to give yourself a deadline. If we don't set a time frame, we may find ourselves sitting around for years Because, ultimately, the only thing you truly have control over is yourself and your behavior. So, while you can't make someone enter into a serious relationship, you can and should take yourself, your needs, your desires, and your happiness very seriously.
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